APPLE A to Z

  Why You Feel Like You Don't Belong Surrounding ourselves with different kinds of people helps us figure out who we are and who we’re not; where we fit and where we do not fit in what we value in other people and what we do not value. Those things are important to understand about ourselves, because as human beings we need to feel a sense of belonging, to feel like we can relate to and understand other people, and that they can understand us back—it’s deeply rooted in us. But what if you end up feeling like you don’t belong anywhere? What if you’re at a place that you don’t want to be, but you don’t know where else to go? In 2018, it was time for me to move back to Sweden after having lived in the US for two years. Two years that somehow felt like a lifetime of experiences and lessons. But when I landed in Stockholm and got off the plane, I didn’t feel like home at all. I met with old friends. I went to all the usual spots—but it felt different There was a feeling of disconnect. A...

Making friends doesn't have to be complicated   “I’d rather be here with you right now than to not be here with you right now” is what we want to feel when we’re with someone. And as someone who’s quite introverted and loves her alone-time, it doesn’t happen  too often. But it definitely does happen.  I’ve given this quite a bit of thought - namely, what is it that, for me personally, at this very stage of my life, makes someone interesting and fun to be with? Chemistry I think part of it is this intangible thing we like to call chemistry.  The interaction feels natural and effortless, and you may not quite understand why. I think back on some of the experiences that I’ve had.  Like the time I was in a shared uber with someone, and for the entirety of the ride which lasted about fifteen minutes, we talked and laughed like we’d known each other for years, yet, we’d just met.  It was almost unsettling how well it flowed. I remember getting out of the uber, fe...